Are you trying to make your man commit, but he's just not into it? Is this something that is extremely important to you and not important at all to him? Do you wonder if you'll ever see eye to eye on this matter? Many men fear making a commitment while others just don't see any reason to bother. Here's what you need to know to both be happy with your commitment issues.
While it's important you understand your own reasons for wanting a commitment, you should also try to find out why he's so reluctant. Has enough time passed in the relationship? If you're pushing for a commitment after only a few months of dating, you might be rushing things.
Is he afraid to commit? Why? This is a conversation that should not escalate into an argument. You want to remain calm and receptive of what he has to say. Are his fears reasonable?
Turn the tables and put yourself in his place. Imagine dating a guy you feel a lot of affection for, but for whatever reason, you're just not sure yet. Perhaps there are a few little things about him that have you wondering.
What if he's a bit too bossy? What if he's already telling you to get rid of your friends and change your hair and alter your wardrobe? And what if he's getting angrier and angrier every time he brings up committing and you step further back?
Not very tempting, is it?
Don't try to become your man's boss. Instead, let him see that life with you will always be fun and you won't become a chore to be around. Seeing the bright future he has with you, he'll make that commitment.
While it's important you understand your own reasons for wanting a commitment, you should also try to find out why he's so reluctant. Has enough time passed in the relationship? If you're pushing for a commitment after only a few months of dating, you might be rushing things.
Is he afraid to commit? Why? This is a conversation that should not escalate into an argument. You want to remain calm and receptive of what he has to say. Are his fears reasonable?
Turn the tables and put yourself in his place. Imagine dating a guy you feel a lot of affection for, but for whatever reason, you're just not sure yet. Perhaps there are a few little things about him that have you wondering.
What if he's a bit too bossy? What if he's already telling you to get rid of your friends and change your hair and alter your wardrobe? And what if he's getting angrier and angrier every time he brings up committing and you step further back?
Not very tempting, is it?
Don't try to become your man's boss. Instead, let him see that life with you will always be fun and you won't become a chore to be around. Seeing the bright future he has with you, he'll make that commitment.
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